The only way to learn forgiveness is to be betrayed. You might understand the intellectual concept of forgiveness, but you will only learn how to truly forgive when someone has done something that requires you to love them and let it go. Life demands these hurtful experiences for you to learn how forgiveness feels, it could be no other way. If there is anyone in your life that you must forgive, instead of seeing them as someone who has hurt you, try to see them as someone who was sent to teach you forgiveness and thank them for this precious gift - then forgive them, and let it go.
"Clair de Lune" - Claude Debussy
Anonymous asked: I'm in love with my best friend and I can't get over him. I've tried and tried and tried. Sometimes I feel like he's stringing me along, and other times it's clear as day he sees me as just a friend. How can I clear my head of illusions?
Sometimes, I believe, we just need to accept the foggy smokey haze that loving someone gives you. It’ll dissipate achingly slow with time. Replaced by a clear sight. No doubt, we’ll occasionally snap back to that filtered time in our life but not too often. It hurts something fierce and wicked. It plants a seed down in our diaphragms, that takes to the soil of your love, and grows upward, blooming into your ribs, stretching you apart, choking up around our beating hearts.
Know that the space that this foreign thing creates will be filled, slowly overtime, that the hurt will wilt and die when you don’t nurture it. You will find songs that fill the cracks in your bones, and sunsets that patch over the crumbling walls. With kisses, realigning your spine. With self admiration and reaffirmation that stretches you up, gently pulling your shoulders back and chin up. You’ll stop shedding tears for this love, and start shedding them for beautiful things. Wonderful shocking things that curl up in that space and warm you from the inside. Then, someone will come and give you a love that takes root in you, and you know how to nurture that and yourself at the same time.
Everyone says love hurts, but that is not true. Loneliness hurts. Rejection hurts. Losing someone hurts. Envy hurts. Everyone gets these things confused with love, but in reality love is the only thing in this world that covers up all pain and makes someone feel wonderful again. Love is the only thing in this world that does not hurt.
Not only do we live among the stars, the stars live within us.
Going to see my family. Feeling pretty good about myself today.
Send me something nice to come home to :)
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